第三十六章 元辰透視七年之癢
這次來找我的個案，結婚七年，在婚姻過程中有很多問題。
通過元辰宮，來看看婚姻是否能持續。作為觀靈師今天和大家分享一下，這位個案在元辰宮中所見到的一切。
先說一下這位個案整體的婚姻情況吧。她的丈夫是一位企業主，有自己的工廠，經營多年。有很多時候為了事業忽略了家裏的事情，所以把家庭全權交給個案打理。他們有兩個年紀相差一年左右的孩子，個案親自照顧兩個孩子比較累，也沒有自己的時間。
相信有了孩子的人都能體會，如果妻子在生產後沒有得到丈夫的體貼和照顧，關愛關懷不夠，情緒價值沒有得到滿足。後來丈夫請了保姆，婆婆從遠的地方過來照顧，又覺得應該為兒子省錢，回絕了保姆。在此之後，婆婆隻願意接送大兒子，在家務和其他方麵都不太願意照顧，而個案要上班，平時還要接送和照顧孩子，洗衣做飯之類的家務也是親自動手，逐漸身心疲憊。
由於個案的工作是文職，收入不高，她覺得自己無法支持兩個孩子的生活。在聽了很多先上課以後，她感覺如果早一些能明白擇偶的一些道理，就不會選擇這樣的人做丈夫。但是我建議她還是先看看元辰宮在決定，因為人一時的判斷不一定是準確的，說不定她的丈夫確實是今生的正緣呢？
進入元辰宮後，我能看到她的格局是一棟兩層的小民房。陰天，快要下雨又遲遲無雨的樣子。圍牆內沒有管家的出現，管家代表小我，小我說明了這個人還是會愛自己。但是看不見小我，說明這個人已經累到顧不上自己的狀態，已經很久沒有和自己的內心溝通。
走進神明廳，我看到的是媽祖娘娘。這說明個案還是很期待丈夫的關注和出現，能給到自己關愛和溫情。個案聞之流淚，她說內心還是很希望和丈夫走下去的，但是對婚姻實在很無力了。
然而我在媽祖娘娘身後有一個小小的關公像，關帝呈擲刀的狀態。
這說明個案心裏大部分的情緒是期望老公能對自己多點關愛，而小部分會想離開丈夫，向丈夫投射不滿和憤怒的情緒。這時候，我看到個案的神明廳和客廳地麵有不少小老鼠，看來問題有些嚴重，需要趕緊清理，這都是一些負能量的體現。
在檢查和調整大廳之後，我來到個案的臥室，看看他們夫妻的婚姻狀況。從臥室的整體看到，她的丈夫還愛著她，但是臥室有工作台，很明顯丈夫的內心已經被工作占據，連回到家中也思考事業的問題，難怪對家人忽略了應有的關心。我請管家把工作台移走，把桌子移到書房。臥室是愛情和溫情的地方，不是工作的地方。
再回到臥室——床鋪平整，似乎兩人沒有使用過床品的感覺，冷冷清清——他們很久沒有夫妻生活了。
於是我調整床鋪和床頭櫃，讓他們夫妻能變得更加親密。
從臥室的其他狀況我還看到，個案的老公有夜宿工廠的情況，他在工廠內設有臥室。我問個案，她的丈夫是否住在廠裏。她說從四五個月之前開始就時不時留宿工廠了。但是她補充說，她老公是很老實很正直的人，她也找人去工廠看看，並沒有任何出軌的表現。
從一些細節看到，個案的老公不是出軌，而是看到妻子從貌美如花青春少艾變得蓬頭垢麵，心裏出現了愧疚和傷感，另外她丈夫和她婆婆的關係其實並不好，這個男人比較厭煩自己的母親，所以是不是避開她，不想經常同住。這時候個案才意識到，自己並沒有往丈夫和婆婆的關係去想，以為隻有自己對婆婆的性情產生抵觸。
除此以外，個案的臥室窗戶緊閉，很明顯他們夫妻之間已經沒有交心和溝通。我把窗打開，希望他們能增加溝通。
從整體看來，這對夫妻仍然相愛，不需要為了家庭的瑣事而離婚。兩人更需要互相體貼和培養溝通的習慣。
之後我走到個案的桃花林看看，在我看來，這位四十歲的女性依然很美麗，而且她的桃花林隻有一棵桃花樹。看來她的感情世界從來隻有老公一個，沒有跟其他任何人發生過曖昧，也沒有任何過去的情史。一生一世一雙人做到位了，初戀和丈夫都是同一個人。個案說，認識丈夫的時候，第一次戀愛，非常珍惜，所以後來就把初戀談到現在，希望能白頭到老。我覺得這種人生真的很幸運，所以鼓勵她一定要好好珍惜。
在第一次調整之後，個案從丈夫口中知道了一件多年不宣的小秘密。原來她的丈夫是過繼兒子，就是說，當年親生父母太窮，而親父母的姐姐並沒有孩子，所以把他過繼給了長姐。這種事情在農村當地沒什麼大不了，但是她的老公清楚，現在的媽媽是姑媽，而舅舅才是親爹。雖然有兩對父母，但是無論如何相處，都無法跟任何一對父母心貼心的交流，總是有著一種莫名的隔閡，莫名的親疏之分。從這件事上，個案對丈夫又多了一種諒解和接納。
另外，個案提到她的丈夫出現了在家裏不提工作，而會提出周末帶著家人出遊的建議和安排。盡管他們已經回不到戀愛時的感覺，但是現在已經慢慢有了老夫老妻之間的溫情，希望他們能越來越好。
今天的分享就到這裏啦，祝天下渴望愛的人都學會愛，大家周末愉快哦！
Chapter36
Get rid of the seven-year itch The client came to me has been married for seven years, there are many problems in the process of marriage. Want to see if the marriage can last through the Yuan Chen Palace. As a spiritual master,I\\u0027m here to share with you what this case has seen in the Yuan Chen Palace.
Let me start with the overall marital situation of this case.
Her husband is a successful entrepreneur with his own factory and has been running it for many years. Sometimes her husband neglects the family business for his career, so he gives the family all the power to handle the case. There are two children at home who are only one year apart. It is tiring to take care of the two children in person, and she has no time of her own.
I believe that anyone with children can realize that if a wife is not carefully cared for and cared for by her husband after childbirth, or if the love and care for her wife are not enough, then the emotional value of her wife will not be satisfied.
Although her husband later hired a nanny for her and her mother-in-law came from far away to help take care of the children,she thought she should save money for her sons, so she turned down the nanny.
Later in the day, the mother-in-law was only willing to pick up the eldest son, but she was not willing to help in housework and other aspects, and the case also had to go to work, pick up and take care of the children at ordinary times, and housework such as washing and cooking was also her own hands, so she gradually felt tired physically and mentally.
Because the case was a civilian job and her income was not high,she felt that she could not support the life of her two children. After listening to many of my lessons, she felt that she would not choose such a man as her husband if she could understand some of the reasons for choosing a spouse earlier. However, I suggest that she still look at the Yuan Chen Palace before deciding, because people\\u0027s judgments are not necessarily accurate, maybe her husband is really the right one in her life?
When I entered her Yuan Chen Palace, I could see that her pattern was a small two-floors house. It\\u0027s the kind of cloudy day that\\u0027s going to rain and it\\u0027s going to rain late. There is no housekeeper in the fence. The housekeeper represents the ego. The ego shows that this person still loves herself. But I can\\u0027t see the ego at all, which means that this person is too tired to care about her own, and has not communicated with his heart for a long time.
When I went into her hall of gods, I saw Matsu. This shows that the case is still looking forward to her husband\\u0027s attention and appearance, can give their love and warmth. But the case heard with tears because she said that in her heart she still wanted to go on with her husband, but she was really powerless about marriage.
Behind Matsu, I saw a small image of Guan Yu, which was throwing a knife. This shows that most of the emotions in the case are expected to be more caring for their husbands, while a small part will want to leave their husbands, projecting discontent and anger to their husbands. At the same time, I also saw a lot of mice on the floor of the case\\u0027s God hall and living room. It seems that her problem is very serious and needs to be cleaned up as soon as possible because it is the reflection of some negative energy.
After I checked and adjusted the case hall, I came to the case bedroom and wanted to see the marital status of their husband and wife. From the bedroom as a whole, her husband still loves her, but the bedroom has a workbench. Obviously, the husband\\u0027s heart has been occupied by his work, and he also thinks about his career when he returns home. So it\\u0027s no wonder that he neglects his due concern for his family. In this case, I asked the housekeeper to move the workbench and the desk to the study. Because the bedroom is a Palace of love and warmth, not a Palace of work.
When I got back to the bedroom, I saw that the beds were smooth as if they had never been used, and they were cold. It seemed that they had not lived together for a long time.
So I adjusted the beds and bedside cabinets in the hope that they would become closer to each other.
From other aspects of the bedroom, I can also see that the husband of the client slept in the factory sometime. He has a bedroom in the factory. I asked the case whether her husband lived in the factory. She said she had been staying in the factory from time to time since four or five months ago. But then she added that her husband was a very honest and upright person, and she also went to the factory to see him. He did not show any signs of derailment.