他反對男權社會的禮法道德，而欣賞、讚美、體貼女性，甘願做女性的護衛者。他忠於對林黛玉的真摯愛情，反對封建家長的包辦婚姻。當他心愛的林黛玉死去，而他所珍視的美麗的女性在封建社會的摧殘下死的死散的散時，他認識到現實的黑暗醜惡，也感到人生的痛苦和幻滅，最後他絕望了，拋棄了家庭和社會，出家當和尚去了。
A Dream of Red Mansions depicts a tragic world， which consists of the three dimensions—the society，family and individual. As far as individual dimemison is concerned， Jia Baoyu is a representative of themany tragic characters. The novel portrays the life tragedy of Jia Baoyu， who is an idealized character of theauthor’s. Jia Baoyu lives in the home of pleasure and luxury， but is endowed with sentiment and passionatedevotion. He does not choose to travel the arranged path to do his studies and take his official career by thefeudal patriarchy， but resets himself onto the way to revolt against feudal ethical codes. He thinks more offeelings than of feudal ethical codes， and he prefers beautiful young women to men， thinking that youngwomen are made of water， pure as ever and men of clay， stinking and stifling. He objects to rules of etiquettesand ethics in the male chauvinist society， but appreciates， eulogizes and cares for the female and volunteersto protect them. He upholds his true love for Lin Daiyu and opposes the arranged marriage by the feudalpatriarchy. As his beloved Lin Daiyu and other beautiful young women were tortured to death or scatteredhere and there in the feudal society， he came to recognize the darkness and evils of the realities， feel a pain ofsuffering and illusion in life and eventually renounce his family and the society in utter despair to be tonsuredto become a monk.
一般說來，戀愛、結婚、組建家庭是人生重要的三步。小說描寫了賈寶玉和林黛玉、薛寶釵之間的愛情婚姻悲劇。賈寶玉與林黛玉的愛情是“木石前盟”，是建立在兩情相悅、兩心相知的基礎之上的自由純潔的愛情，不講門第，不計利害，重情不重禮，生死與共，與封建禮教背道而馳，是一種叛逆的愛情。因為這種愛情不合封建禮教，不符合封建家族的利益，不遵從封建家長的意誌，所以最終被扼殺，造成了林黛玉的死亡和賈寶玉的出家，上演了一出令人心碎的愛情悲劇。賈寶玉與薛寶釵的婚姻是“金玉良緣”，薛寶釵是一個遵禮守教的封建淑女，她重禮不重情，自覺地壓抑自己的個性和情感，時時處處按封建禮教的要求行動，安分守拙，城府很深。雖然賈寶玉被迫與薛寶釵結婚，但由於他和薛寶釵誌不同，道不合，最後拋棄了薛寶釵而出家，造成了他們之間沒有愛情的婚姻悲劇。由於賈寶玉與林黛玉之間的愛情悲劇和賈寶玉與薛寶釵之間的婚姻悲劇，“核心家庭”在賈府這個封建貴族大家庭內部一建立就被毀滅了。沒有年青一代的小“家”，大“家”怎能長久？
Generally speaking， love， marriage and family are the important three steps in one’s life. Thenovel portrays the tragic love and marriage between Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu on the one hand andbetween Jia Baoyu and Xue Baochai on the other. The love between Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu， whichis“predestined”and based on their mutual love and understanding， is a free and pure love without anyconcern for family status and interests； and it is also a constant and rebellious love， which emphasizes feelingrather than feudal ethical codes， and thus runs counter to feudal ethical codes. This kind of love conforms toneither the feudal ethical codes nor the interests of the feudal families nor the will of the feudal patriarchy， soit is strangled to death and ends in a heart-breaking tragedy， including the death of Lin Daiyu and Jia Baoyu’sdecision to be tonsured to become a monk. The marriage between Jia Baoyu and Xue Baochai is“well-matched”. As a beautiful and virtuous lady， Xue Baochai adjusts herself to feudal ethical codes. She thinksmore of feudal ethical codes than of feelings； She involuntarily restrains her temperament and feelings andalways behaves herself according to the needs of the feudal ethical codes. She knows her place， but she isvery astute. Although Jia Baoyu gets married to Xue Baochai by force， he has little in common with her andfinally decides to forsake her and tonsure himself to become a monk. Thus their marriage without love endsup tragically. Because of the tragic love between Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu and the tragic marriage between JiaBaoyu and Xue Baochai， the“nuclear family”is destroyed as soon as it is built up within the Jia mansions，a big aristocratic family of the feudal society. Without the younger generation’s“nuclear family”， how can abig family last long？