正文 第7章 Happiness(1 / 3)

今天,你還在抱怨嗎?

“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.”—Dale Carnegie

If we really want to be happy, why do we act like such babies?

We can claim to be proactive in our life by settings goals and going after what we want. But if we’re always whining and complaining, are we really living effectively?

If you don’t believe me, count how many times you complain about something or other in one day. Whether it be being stuck in traffic, being bothered by the weather, not enough mustard on your sandwich, or whatever it is, there are endless instances where you can find a reason to complain.

But it’s not just outside circumstances that we complain about. We complain about ourselves too. We complain that we don’t have enough time, we don’t have enough money (this one is huge because it’s often“true”), that we’re not smart enough, cool enough, or just enough.

I know I’ve experienced plenty of unpleasantness due to complaining about things I can’t control. I never really thought about it much until I found this website about“living in a complain free world.”

Imagine how much happier you would be if you simply stopped complaining? Much of what you complain about is outside of your control anyway. What’s the point of brooding about something you have no power to change? Not very intelligent, if you ask me.

Simply becoming conscious of how much you complain is the first step to stopping. When you recognize that you’re complaining, stop and take notice of it. Ask yourself if you would rather complain, or be happy.

Are you ready to live a complaint-free, happier life?

任何笨蛋都可以批評,譴責和抱怨,但是理解和寬容需要個人品質和自我控製。

——卡內基

如果我們想要變得高興,為什麼要像小孩子那樣呢?

我們可以積極主動的在我們生活中設定目標,然後向著目標進發。但是如果我們整天牢騷滿腹,怨天尤人的話,我們還會活的有效率嗎?

如果你不相信我,仔細想想你一天要抱怨幾次。不管是因為糟糕的交通狀況,被天氣所困擾,還是三明治上芥末放得不夠,總之生活中有無數的煩心事可以讓我們抱怨。

不僅外部的環境讓我們抱怨,我們還不斷的抱怨我們自己。比如時間不夠啊,錢不夠花啊,不夠聰明不夠冷靜啊,反正什麼看上去都不夠好。