The first step was that my friend talked to the home room teacher。But to her disappointment the teacher did not take the complaint serious。“It is normal that young people have quarrels，”she said，“it will pass。”That was of no help。So my friend talked to Eva again and she tried to analyze the case。As it turned out the leader of the bullies was a girl whose parents had just divorced。The girl had to stay with her father，even though that was not her choice。In the process her marks at school became worse and worse。She bonded with two girls who had the same problems in passing the exams。Somehow they must have felt stronger by putting a girl down who had good marks，and Eva became the target of their intimidations。
Share your sorrow
It was already helpful for Eva to share her sorrow with her mother。Eva understood that it was not her weakness and by no means her looks，that caused the problem，but the weakness of the bullies。From now on she simply walked away when she would be alone in an area with them。In situations where she could not avoid it she collected all her courage to appear as confident as possible。Her mother had told her that bullies usually chose someone who they think is weaker than they are。They want to overcome their shortcomings by putting others down。Bullies are weak，not superior。