The more pain，the more fun
In a conversation we had together I told Eva of my own experience with“bullies”at work。It had been a very painful experience as the two colleagues who bullied me by blaming me for things I had not done were former friends。In some ways it was the same situation，I had been more successful and the result was envy。It had helped me a lot when at the time I read in a book that“envy is something you have to earn”。Of course，if I would have just delivered an average achievement，why bother？Same with Eva，if her classmates envy her for being a good pupil，she should convince herself to take their envy as an acknowledgement of her accomplishments，painful as it was。It was in fact the bullies who needed help to break that cycle of mean behavior。This insight made a big change in how Eva received their insults。And because she did not show her feelings any more，she became less interesting as a target。
How did the story end？Instead of focusing on the bullying Eva was reaching out to make friends with other classmates。They had misinterpreted her introverted behavior as being arrogant。As soon as she made the first step，things eased up。Now after a few month being bullied is nothing but a bad memory with a good lesson for life。