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聽與說練習
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下麵是幾個有針對性的練習,你可以利用孩子上學,或者在家自己安安靜靜的時候,抽幾分鍾時間練習這些方法。
練習一
A.你的孩子趁你不在家的時候,把家整理得又幹淨又漂亮。
假設你用通常的方式,你會怎麼說?
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運用今天所學的方法,你會怎麼說?
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對比兩種方法的效果:
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B.今天孩子的作業完成得又好又快。
假設你用通常的方式,你會怎麼說?
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運用今天所學的方法,你會怎麼說?
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對比兩種方法的效果:
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C.今天孩子幫你洗碗了。
假設你用通常的方式,你會怎麼說?
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運用今天所學的方法,你會怎麼說?
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對比兩種方法的效果:
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D.今天孩子擺的積木漂亮極了。
假設你用通常的方式,你會怎麼說?
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運用今天所學的方法,你會怎麼說?
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對比兩種方法的效果:
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練習二
A.你的孩子在吃早飯的時候無意間把牛奶灑了。
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假設你用通常的方式,你會怎麼說?
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今天,你運用了哪項方法?
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對比兩種方法的效果:
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B.你的孩子在玩耍的時候不小心把杯子打碎了。
假設你用通常的方式,你會怎麼說?
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今天,你運用了哪項方法?
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對比兩種方法的效果:
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C.在商店裏,你的孩子看到一個想要的玩具,不再大吵大鬧非要你買了,而是學會和你商量了。
假設你用通常的方式,你會怎麼說?
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今天,你運用了哪項方法?
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對比兩種方法的效果:
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D.孩子去醫院打針表現得很勇敢。
假設你用通常的方式,你會怎麼說?
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今天,你運用了哪項方法?
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對比兩種方法的效果:
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人性最奧妙的原理是會渴求讚賞。每一個人都會在得到讚賞時,開心樂意地做更多的事情。當別人稱讚我們做得好時,我們會想做得更好。“讚賞人”這門藝術是“取悅人”這門藝術的開始。那麼,現在你就把這些方法運用到親子溝通中吧!