Actually，at that time，the person is not his usual self anymore. He was probably under very great pressure that he lost his own control. It’s not really that lost his own control，but for example，when you are in a hurry，your talk is different，Right?“Hand me that coat ! Quick ! Quick! Quick!”Things like that. But normally，you would say“Honey，please，can you give me that coat.”Is that not so? Or when you’re in pain—for example stomach pain，heartache or whatever—you scream loudly； and anyone who comes to talk to you，you don’t talk in the usual way anymore，because you’re in pain.
Similarly，when you are in a mental or psychological pain，you talk also in a very grouchy way，very cross. But that is understandable. So if we—any so-called loving partner or family member—do not understand even this very least，very basic concept，then we’re finished. Then we are really in a bad situation. It’s not that the partner will do anything to us. Whether he does anything to us later or not，that is no problem. The problem is us. The problem is we degrade ourselves，that we make less of a being of ourselves than we should be，than we are supposed to be，or that we really are. So do not make less of a being of yourselves.
真愛超越一切
本傑明·雷蒙德
真愛是不管處境好與不好都應該在一起的，特別是當處境不好、有麻煩時，更應該“同甘共苦”，但對於我們自己來講，大部分人都無法做到這一點，而不是我們的同伴做不到。由於你的熱情，他會與你同甘共苦，或由於你的冷漠，他會離你而去。是你背棄了自己，背棄了本應高尚的自我。所以我們應該反省自己對家人或任何我們所鍾愛的人的關係，通常是在關鍵的時刻我們背棄了他們，這樣很不好。